Cleaving to your Partner

An active woman in a mans life

Genesis 2:18

18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Active:doing things for an organization, cause, or campaign, rather than simply giving it one's support.

We as woman were created to be a helper. All woman were yet when you are not living in that you feel like your dormant. Well some do. I want someone to want me to help them. To feel needed because as a woman who purpose is to be a helper well i have desire to help. Imagine if God created eve and adam just said na God i dont really need her help. well her main purpose as a creation was to help. If shes not needed by the man to be a help to her then she would have been useless. Purposeless. Proverbs 31 talks about all the ways a woman should be active in helping. Shes not lazy just sitting there but she is alot of the backround of getting things done to make sure the man and their family is taken care of.

Warning from God: Dont leave your partner behind

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
9 Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.

You may think leaving your partner maybe a good choice but its not. There is a point in your life coming up where you dont see it yet but you are going to need them and they are going to need you. That woe is not there for no reason slow down and keep moving with your partner and helping them. Dont go ahead of them or think you can do it alone because this season you will need them God is going to teach you have to cleave with one another and learn how to depend on one another learning trust and how to be a good partner and if you dont have them things will be rough because this task next season is a two person job

Its time to Learn to Need Each Other!

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Cleaving:  to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly

When a man and a woman get married they have to learn to depend on each other. They have to learn to become a team! They now need each other to get through life. Its no longer about me but about we. The decisions must be made together! Cleaving is not easy because often we want to go our own way. Yet when you share your life with someone its a whole other  ball game.  You have to learn how to need that person. Learning to not just be independent but be dependent.  It makes life a little more easier. They can lean on you just as you can lean on them. As a single person you do everything yourself but as a couple you have someone to share your burdens. Cooking, Cleaning, Picking Up the Kids, Grocery Shopping, Help with The Bills, sharing your ups and downs with! Things get lighter for one another. You learn how much you really need that person and how much that person needs you. Learning to become not just two but one!

Learning to Walk Together

Amos 3:3

3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

I guess learning to walk together would be the first step. Its easy to walk by yourself because you can go at your own speed your alone and you can make any turns in life you like. Yet not when your walking with someone. You have to walk in a similar pace, turn at the same places, stop at the same stops. If you dont agree at the pace you are going then you can either leave your partner behind or you will be left behind. You have to find a similar tempo. When its time to make turns or drastic changes in your life like having kids, or buying a house or moving, you want to make sure that you agree going down these roads. Its hard to keep walking together if you want to go left and your partner wants to go right. You cant go two different ways. I want a kid I dont want a kid doesnt work, I want a house I want a condo doesnt work, In order to turn you have to agree to walk together. Even if you meet each other in a inbetween like a duplex or to get a dog if you agree then you can still keep walking together. If your partner stops say you settle down in a town then you stop to. You settle to you dont keep going. Its learning to walk together. Not its not always going to be comfortable or always going to be things you want but sometimes in order to stay walking together you have to agree to disagree. Its not going to come over night because cleaving takes time!